Sunday, July 22, 2012

Where does Bullying come from?

For those of you who know me personally, you know I'm a bit of a TV (as well as a movie) addict. As a Glee fan, I found out about The Glee Project TV show during the year, and even though I missed last years show, I have watched this one with great enjoyment. One show though left me feeling unsettled, it was the show on 'bullying'. 
This show came on several weeks ago, and its only now I can write what I came up with as my hand will stand up to the typing.  Anyway, for several days after the show I contemplated what I had seen, heard and of course my mental computer went into overdrive.  What is behind this bullying aspect of life - then it came to me. The Sit Com Shows!!
Why them you may ask? Well, I stopped watching sit com shows many years ago, although I have begun to enjoy The Big Bang Theory. But most of the half hour presumably comedy shows I found were people putting one another down. (I'm told Modern Family is not like that - but I have not got around to watching it regularly).
For years the children of our society have been watching shows in which other people sit around laughing at one person making another person wrong. Why do we need to feel better when another is put down or made to look insignificant as though they do not matter?
In my intensive Plug Into Your Power, I teach the Inferior/Superior Game. How often when you feel hurt or put down (inferior) you will do something to put the other person down, which in turn has you feel superior. This game is not a good game. It hurts everyone, especially yourself because you are in a defensive position and therefore respond either via a reactive (ego/defensive) stance or just a straight knock down and out get out of my face stance.
I truly have come to believe, that the children and many adults believe this put down behavior is acceptable. So today, when bullying becomes an issue they look at the children, but they are not looking at the base cause - Sit Com TV shows. (This attitude is also repeated in many movies - those ones I don' go see either).
Until we as adults make a stand not to support these kinds of shows and make shows where people respect and honor differences (perhaps that is where Modern Family comes in) then we cannot expect our children to see and know the difference.
I want to see bullying end - no matter if it is children or adults. I want to see us respect and honor each other and support each other in our life journey. We are all different and we need to honor that difference so we can honor ourselves.
Let me know what you think.

Norma Cowie 250 490 0654 Email: norma@normacowie.com

Friday, July 06, 2012

July and What It Brings!

Finally my left hand is beginning to get better and I can type for more than a few minutes without pain. In fact, overall I'm so much better, not much pain anywhere except a bit in my shoulders from time to time and my gout finger, hand and wrist. When I first got the medication for gout I could not take it. It made me really ill, so decided I wouldn't and attempted the natural way, black cherry juice and celery seed tea. After a couple of weeks, there was no visible sign of improvement, in fact it was looking more swollen and more painful so decided to 'try' the medication again.  This time it worked, did not feel ill, in fact felt fine. Then I realized when I first began taking it, I still was not very well and was eating very little. This is medication you need to take with food. Before I was not eating enough food so it was upsetting my stomach. Now that I'm feeling so much better I'm eating more and I was 'smart' enough to realize I needed to coat my stomach wall, so ate bread, and its fine. 
I'm doing so much better, as already stated. Between my lympathic massage therapist and the Feldenkrais therapist I have made a big stride forward.  I will be taking the blood test Monday to see if I'm still anemic or not. I still get tired and often have an afternoon nap.
What is interesting though is now I'm feeling better, the days seem longer and I'm not sure what to do with myself.  Now that my hand is beginning to get better I can begin to work on projects, ie the blog. 
So here I sit outside on my porch, protected from the sun (which is finally here again) and typing away. Listening to the birds, and enjoying the 'summer' feel. July is always an interesting month for me as its my birthday month and I feel a landmark in the year.  I usually have a pot luck barbecue to celebrate the summer and birthdays, but so far this year I have not organized one, as I don't know how the energy is going to be etc.  My birthday weekend will have my daughter Bridget and a friend of hers visiting (there maybe more) and I think that will be enough for me to handle until I'm 100% fully together.
I began going to the local Penticton Market last week.  A friend and grad Cristin and I have gone 1/2s on a booth there, and her daughter is setting up and taking down my side of things, so all I have to do is show up around 10.00am and work till I get tired.  Last week there was horrendous thunderstorms and I managed to be there between them, but everything was quite damp, plus no so many people due to the rain, but this week - tomorrow - there will be lots of lovely sunshine, and therefore lots of people. This market has a phenomenal reputation.  Hopefully a few people will want readings.
I have had some interesting 'clearing' sessions this week.Always amazes me what blocks we have inside, but the miracle is that we can clear them and move on with our lives. I received a phone call two days ago from a client, saying thank you, everything was going nicely since our session. One always like to receive those.
I also am leading my Wednesday night Drop In Group again.  The group remarked on how every week I'm stronger etc.  Oh yes, it is a wonderful barometer as to how I'm progressing.
I pulled three cards for this blog. It s a message for us all. 10 Wands, 10 Swords, Magician.  Quit worrying, or over thinking because the issues are nearly over and you are close to your goal. Everything is ready for you to proceed ahead, you have everything you need. So go to it.
Well the wrist is saying enough....so must close! 
Enjoy the month of July!
Norma.
PS  well enough to go to the movies, so soon the movie blog will be back in style too.

Norma Cowie 250 490 0654 Email: norma@normacowie.com