Friday, March 14, 2008

What's Your Story - are you addicted!

Recently I was having a conversation with another metaphysical healer and shaman when we began discussing how hard it is for some of our clients to let go of their ‘story’. I was mentioning how in lectures I often say “if you find yourself repeating the same story more than three times you are addicted to the story …. But I have more than three friends.” This usually gets a laugh, but in truth it is no laughing matter.
We are addicted to our stories. I remember some of the stories’ I have had to let go of. My weight was a result of my genetics – I never mentioned that I ate chocolate cookies late at night because I was unhappy. I went bankrupt because of 911 - even though it was the beginning, it is not the whole story. Another story was I was depressed because of my then husband and what he was doing – never mind I was not holding my own power. Once I began to realize how my ‘stories’ were excuses I made for not accepting responsibility for my actions I began letting go of a lot of ‘old stories’. Even today I listen to my conversations and if I find I am repeating the same ‘story’ over and over, to different friends I know I’m blocked by that ‘story’ and need to release the ‘energy’ around the story and assume responsibility for myself. I endeavor to let the stories go and be in the present.
Mind you, some stories I do retell in order to make a point, especially when teaching. After all my life’s experiences do have value, as everyone’s does. The main aspect of any story is. are you still emotionally involved with the story or the outcome. If you are, then an aspect of you is trapped in that time zone and as long as you keep repeating it – the story – the event – the situation – you will be refueling it. Letting go of the emotion, the blame, the regret, the guilt, whatever the emotion is tied to the memory of the story is was is important. You need to be free to remember the events of your life with ease – not discomfort.
An example of this could be for many years different people told me by my personality, behaviors, even my eyes (dots on them) I had been sexually abused. I had no memory of this at all and thought they were crazy. Then one day I had a spontaneous memory, as I followed an abandonment energy, of being sexually abused when I was only 2 ½. Luckily at that time I had my inner child process and with the aid of a student who lived close, we were able to transform the energy very efficiently and other memories which came up later I was able to handle the same way. Transformation of the emotional energy definitely is the key. The story, which I could have used as to why I had not been as successful as I wanted to be, or as happy as I wanted, or have as successful relationships as I wanted was let go quickly. I assumed responsibility and proceeded ahead with my life. (My Energy Release tape and Connecting to the Light book helps in transforming the energy around memories).
Thank goodness I had the knowledge by the time I did have my memory of it, I knew enough how to let go and not be bound by the event. I hear people who 20, 30, 40 and longer years later still recall events like they were yesterday. Transformation of the energy has not been completed. They are addicted to the story and the aftermath. They do not look towards the future and what they want to achieve, they consistently look backwards to what was.
At the bottom of my meta-zine which I email out every other month, I have written “we are a product of our past, we are not our past”. This is because every day is a new day and we all can choose to let the story of the past go and move ahead and create new stories, which in their turn need to be let go.
Therefore, it is important to observe which story you are telling today. Is it a current one, or an old one? Is it something which holds you back from being all that you can be, or is it one which supports and enlivens you in all ways? Yes, you are a product of your history, but it is not who you really are! You are a divine being having this experience and therefore need to release it and come to understand your strengths and have faith in you and life.
Most important - life is here for us to enjoy – therefore we need to enjoy it! Everyday, is a new day and we need to enjoy it with all the possibilities it gives us without our personal stories pulling us backward. The future is where it is at! So let us drop the old stories and create new ones.
Norma Cowie
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